Well, every one , thank you for looking at my pussle
any one , i have figured it out!
i just add the hostname of the first machine and its ip address
to the second one's C:\WINDOWS\system32\drivers\etc/hosts
file
and everything thing is ok , i think i dont "Configure Log in to the Admin Console Using an IP Address".
But i still how to do it ,the adminsitration is not so clear to me
however ,i at last resolve it
Hope it will be useful for others.
_wolf